Erection Issue

Hi all

I'm new here. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. 99% of the time we have mind blowing sex. I don't have any complaints.

I do have one little concern though. In the 7 months we've been going out, he's had a problem staying hard maybe...5 times. We'll be kissing and touching, and he'll get hard, but he'll lose it. It usually happens if we really rush through foreplay, or..if he loses concentration. (He has ADD, if that helps). It doesn't happen enough to really bother me - though I admit at first, I thought it was because he didn't think I was attractive. He assured me it had nothing to do with me, but every time it's happened he's gotten really upset. He says it makes him feel "less than a man", and that he's not doing his boyfriend duty.

The few times it's happened, I've assured him that it's no big deal, and that it happens to everyone, and that he does please me more than anyone I've ever been with, but I'm not sure if he believes me. Could any of you guys offer any advice I could share with him to help ease his fears? He's talking about going to the doctor, and I think that's just silly. He's 26 years old! I think Viagra is really premature at this point.

Any help you guys can give me would be great! Thanks in advance

Going to the doctor is not a bad idea. They can do some blood work and rule out any hormone defidiencies and stuff like that.
Aside from that, i would say that when that happens just flow into oral sex. I bet he will get hard again.
I am 44 and it happens to me occasionaly, if my partner just spends a little extra attention to stimulating me, it comes back fine.

I absolutely LOVE to Lick It All !!!!!

Im not sure about easing his fears, but for a god few years i was unable to even get an erection...

As you have said , and he should know every guy goes through this, in some way, it will only become a major problem if he dwels on it constantly.
For a guy its a complex thing to get an erection, sexualy for a female , it isnt as complex. That may be misinterpreted.

Arousal for a female is more complex than for a male.

Its a bit odd, as some or many females believe for a guy to get hard its a simple thing, well it requires the body to be in good health internaly, also to be emotionaly able as well...some times being very tired can addle an erection, sometimes haveing a slight bug inside can have adverse effects, emotionaly stressed also.

many thing have to be functioning properly to get and maintain an erection..

thats why more and more guys are finding they have probelsm, because many find that life offers many forms of social and emotional pressures.


But the good thing is if your boyfriedn only has this on a very rare basis , its not really a big issue, but a trip to the doctors as someone has already said could be a good thing.

Every guy has problems getting it up at times.. I doubt any guy has had their sail rise 100% of the time in his life.

My g/f woke me up the other morning with a BJ and climbed on top of me and I was rock hard.. then her roommates from upstairs where outside talking by one of her windows.. then her cat came in and jumped on the bed.. then someone called on the phone and she answered it because it was like 6 am and she thought it was someone calling with an emergency (just a drunk friend)... all of this happened in about a 3 minute span. So I lost my hard on and couldn't get it back up... so we lol and went back to bed.

The one time I told my g/f I was gonna do this to her and that to her through email while she was at work... told her I was gonna make her cum so much she would float away lol... she got home and had her clothes off before she got through the bedroom door and she threw me on the floor and gave me a bj.. and I couldn't stay hard.. she was like wtf big talker? So I started laughing and was like I dunno... so we both laughed and got dressed and took a walk.

He has to learn to joke about it with you and not take it so seriously. It won't be the first or last time it happens...

The worst thing a guy can do is keep trying to get hard, because you keep thinking about getting hard, and it snowballs on you. If you can, go for a walk.. or ask him to perform oral on you.. or just sit and talk about anything but sex. You gotta take the focus off his dick when it happens.

Thanks you guys, for all the advice! It helped