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Why do guys have to do all the worshipping ? Its nice for guys to feel the same in return.
I know the female form is beautiful in most respects, but so is mine. Im a gymnast & a fitness instructor so i have a body which puts most main stream male models to shame.
I wanna feel loved and appreciated during love making, and right now thats not what i feel.
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I never said guys have to do all of the worshipping, that should
never be the case.
I have been posting on this forum several months now and those who have read my posts along the way know well that that is not my mantality.
You didn't mention foreplay in your initial post, so I had no way of knowing whether or not that was happening. Some men neglect properly preparing a womans body for sex and then don't understand why she doesn't respond. I didn't feel it would be fair to look at the situation without knowing whether her needs were being attended to.
to you for taking the time to prepare and arouse her the way you have mentioned.
You are a better lover for it, even if she does not appreciate it.
It's entirely understandable that you might be feeling very unfulfilled when she does not touch or appreciate your body, I was simply addressing her
receiving you without much interest or appreciation.
Sometimes a woman's lack of interest can be due to other things, such as abuse, or guilt (as Cbrmale mentioned), etc. If you can rule out these things for certain, and you feel she is simply a selfish lover, that's a different story entirely.
If she can't take wonderful foreplay from you without giving back with a little bit of enthusiasm, I didn't figure she would be the giver that would enjoy worshipping your body and giving you that kind of attention; that's obviously asking too much in your current situation.
If she says she can't live without the sex toy, that is a problem, in my opinion. A sex toy is a fun extra, but needs to used as an aside, not the staple of her sexual pleasure. And you shouldn't feel badly about discouraging her use of a toy given the troubles you two are having in bed. Although toys are NOT 100% fulfilling in both the emotional and physical sense, they can become a crutch for a lazy lover who does not appreciate the intimacy and give/receive nature of sex, and is happy to simply address their physical desires.
You just drew the conclusion that she is a selfish lover. Only you can do that.
If that is the case, you have some decisions to make. Good luck with them.