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Originally Posted by Goldenlion  Thanks for the advise guys.
I am doing all of those things.
Im not rushing into inercourse.
I spend at least 30 mins doing the above, getting her hot and ready.
But like i said, that just involves her laying there while i do all the hard work. She's a selfish lover what more can i say ?
She told me i give her the best sex she's ever had, so i guess in turn, she thinks the same.
Which in a way is true because she's my 1st sexual partner BUT im finding it boring her just laying there then opening her legs when the time comes.
Put it this way, most times i feel like im shagging a sex doll, she's lacking that much in participation. |
My wife was like this, and we attempted to resolve her passiveness through communication. After counselling and some long talks, we eventually found it was her Christian past, and the way Christians are made to feel guilty about sex. To help my wife become more sexually active, I found some materials to help her reconcile current Church teaching on sex. Once she became less guilty, she found sex became more pleasurable. Of course, the more you put in, the more you get back.
The only thing I can say is what you have is not uncommon, and it may take some time before you discover what it is that is holding your girlfriend back from participating in the sexual event. I understand what you are going through, and personal communication is the only solution in your current relationship.