Please advise: Going outside the relationship, physically.

So when we finally did get to talk about it, he tells me that when the whole conversation first came about he took it to mean that this is what I wanted to do and he was just going along with it...

I've just enough time to take note
of the thin seaweed like blades of grass.
They flow in the pulse of the tide
and caress your face or brush right past.
-Treasures that I travel for

I'm working hard on a girl that I know is bi and has a huge sex drive so I really expect that this kind of thing would come up sooner or later and been wondering what would be my stance on this.

To be cool with it I would have to know that she's completely honest with me about her other relationships. That it stays in the realm of "sex as entertainment" and that there's no other feelings involved. It might actually turn me on to know that she's having fun with another girl/guy, especially if she gives me some details and use it to spice up our own sex life. The most important I think would be that it would have to be OUR thing, something that bind us even more together. So yeah, like others said: communication, honesty and respect.

-- kw4dol4w

It's NOT a good idea.It will be BAD in the end.Trust me.

It might seem like a great idea at first. But after enough time one of you will not be able to handle it and your real realationship will be lost. And as a side note: if it was his idea, you might want to start thinking of letting him go anyway. 1 year my wife and i knew each other she hated me, next 3 we were friends, dated 2, and married now for almost three. I joke about it, but i could never go threw with sleeping with someone other than her.